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Wed, Dec 31, 2008 2:16 AM
Since Ally was born I have written an update at the end of every year to say how fortunate we are to have Ally in our lives. This year is no different! Everyday I thank God for every moment that we had with Ally. Do I wish we had more time with her? Every second I wish for that! I think the thing Shane and I struggle with the most is "Why?" I don't know if that will ever change. I want to share a story with you that Shane had found and had shared with one of Ally's surgeons. Maybe it helps explain the "Why" just a little.

"Tomorrow morning," the surgeon began, I'll open up your heart..." "You'll find Jesus there," the boy interrupted. The surgeon looked up, annoyed "I'll cut your heart open," he continued, to see how much damage has been done..." "But when you open up my heart, you'll find Jesus in there," said the boy. The surgeon looked to the parents, who sat quietly. "When I see how much damage has been done, I'll sew your heart and chest back up, and I'll plan what to do next." "But you'll find Jesus in my heart. The Bible says He lives there. The hymns all say He lives there. You'll find Him in my heart."

The surgeon had had enough. "I'll tell you what I'll find in you heart, I'll find damaged muscle, low blood supply, and weakened vessels. And I'll find out if I can make you well." "You'll find Jesus there too. He lives there."

The surgeon left. The surgeon sat in his office, recording his notes from the surgery,"...damaged aorta, damaged pulmonary vein, widespread muscle degeneration. No hope for transplant, no hope for cure. Therapy: pain killers and bed rest. Prognosis:," here he paused, "death within one year." He stopped the recorder, but there was more to be said. "Why?" he asked aloud "Why did You do this? You've put him here; You've put him in this pain; and You've cursed him to an early death. Why?"

The Lord answered and said, "The boy, My lamb, was not meant for your flock for long, for he is part of My flock, and will forever be. Here in My flock, he will feel no pain, and will be comforted as you cannot imagine. His parents will one day join him here, and they will know peace, and My flock will continue to grow."

The surgeon's tears were hot, but his anger was hotter. "You created that boy, and You created that heart. He'll be dead in months. Why?" The Lord answered, "The boy, My lamb, shall return to My flock, for He has DONE his DUTY: I did not put My lamb with your flock to lose him, but to retrieve another lost lamb." The surgeon wept. The surgeon sat beside the boy's bed; the boy's parents sat across from him. The boy awoke and whispered, "Did you cut open my heart?" "Yes," said the surgeon. "What did you find?" asked the boy. "I found Jesus there," said the surgeon.

Thank you to all the people who helped support, love, guide, and care for Ally, Ashley, Shane and myself throughout this past year. My thank you list continues to grow and someday maybe I will have the strength to tackle it. But for now thank you to all the doctors, nurses, and hospital staff, teachers, co-workers, clergy; friends, family, and an entire community for everything you all have done for us.

A special thank you to all the nurses, doctors and staff who worked so hard to save Ally on the morning that she went to be in Heaven. I am constantly haunted by the images of that day but I take great comfort in knowing that you all loved and cared for Ally so passionately and that now she is forever at peace.

I love you baby girl,
Mommy

We are planning to start the new year off on a good note so look for a great update New Year's day with some exciting news! Wishing everyone a very happy, healthy, and safe New Year!

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Judi Lumis: Jill, Shane, and Ashely
God Bless You, and Best Wishes in 2009. Through the Love you have for your children, you have been such an inspiration to me. Ally is inside you always, she will hold you up just as Jesus does. She made the Boyertown community stronger and closer in the wonderful years she was on this Earth. Again, God Bless.

Carol Yeager: Thank you so much for tellin me about the situation of the little boy and his heart for now maybe I too can understand better WHY,I give you and yours the best and I only hope that the NEW YEAR brings lots of great joy and long overdue happiness, I just couldn't seem to find the words to explain how that story has also done something to my heart also eventhough the LOSS that your family must be feeling YOU just seem to know how to help others to understand situations better . I think about you so much from day to day and then I seem to be looking up in the sky and even though I haven't met Ally I see her smiling and laughing and running and playing .Those are the most beautiful sites that no one can take away .PEACE,LOVE ,FAITH and HOPE be with you all the days of your lives.

ksw: my daughter Sara died 6 yrs ago from cancer...she was 3 yrs old...thank you for helping with the "why"...I can not wait to see her again...Have a blessed New Year

Karen Koller: What a great story! Happy new year!

Phyllis: May God bless you all and bring you peace in this new year 2009. I cared for Ally at A.I.Dupont a few times several years ago and I know what a wonderful child she was. You three have done so well these last few years; loving Ally and bringing her so much joy and laughter amidst the pain. She loved you so much. In her short life she brought such love and laughter to others. Even as a baby, she touched everyone she met. She would want nothing more now than for you three to be happy and to find some peace and comfort from the time you all had together. I can't begin to imagine your pain and I pray for a miracle of peace and joy for the three of you. God Bless!

The Strocks: Happy New Year to you all. Hoping that 2009 brings you peace and good health. You are always in our thoughts and prayers.

Keri: Happy New Year to all of you! We're sending the very best wishes for 2009.

The Bollingers: Ashley, Jill and Shane...wishing you all a Happy New Year. Our thoughts and prayers are with you. God Bless

Joanne: Great story! I saw Jesus in Ally's heart from your very first update! She had a very special purpose in her short time here and was an inspiration to many. May you have a most blessed 2009!

Sandra , Tony & Anthony: Thinking of you... Happy New Year!!! We love you all so much!!!!!!

cris: Jill and Shane and Ashley...Happy New Year and love to all...I think it is appropriate to ask you to visit the Caringbridge website for Joshua Gehman. The Gehmans need you special love and wishes. Joshua is like Ally a beautiful fighter! HE is doing everything to make it easier on his family, just like Ally. God bless all of you.

phil h: Jill,Shane and Ashley Happy New Year and best wishes for 2009

Sheila Little: Happy New Year Jill, Shane and Ashley! I'm praying that 2009 will bring you well deserved health, peace, and happiness :)

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Thu, Dec 25, 2008 11:48 PM
Merry Christmas Angel! Santa left Ashley a note in your stocking at Daddy's. It said that he had talked to Jesus and delivered all your presents to Heaven. I hope you had fun with them I'm sure there was a bunch of Lighting McQuenn toys and probably some Mickey Mouse things too!

I know you were with us today but it was still hard not to hear your laugh and see your beautiful smile on Christmas morning.

Watch over Ash she didn't have the best day since she wasn't feeling well. Hopefully just a cold but I have a feeling her ears hurt again and she just doesn't want to tell us so we won't take her to the doctors.

I love you Ally.
Mommy

Don't stay up too late playing with your toys!
Merry Christmas.

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Deanna: Merry Christmas and Happy New Year. May God bring you healing and strength over the next year. Thinking of you and wishing you well.

Kim Donohue: Merry Christmas you guys. Here's to a wonderful, healthy 2009. Thinking of you.

Carol Yeager: I know that it must have been hard to go thru the first Christmas without your child and I only hope that you had a great day with Ashley and just try to have the best holiday with her because I would think you know just how hard it must have been on her also not being with her sister this Christmas.I can only send BEST WISHES and hope that every day will get easier to face as time goes on.HOPE YOU ALL HAVE A HAPPY NEW YEAR,GOD BLESS.

D. Stinnard: Best wishes and hopefully the year will bring you peace and joy. We know it will take time and the family has our prayers of support.

phil: Merry Christmas and have a Happy and Prosperous New Year. Best wishes to you and your family for 2009

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Mon, Dec 22, 2008 1:34 AM
A friend shared this poem with me and I would like to share it with all of you.

REMEMBERING

Go ahead and mention my child
The one that died, you know
Don't worry about hurting me further
The depth of my pain doesn't show.

Don't worry about making me cry
I'm already crying inside
Help me to heal by releasing
The tears that I try to hide.

I'm hurt when you just keep silent
Pretending it doesn't exist
I'd rather you'd mention my child
Knowing that she has been missed.

You ask me how I'm doing I say
"pretty good" or "fine"
But healing is something on-going
I feel it will take a lifetime.

By Elizabeth Dent

I miss you Ally, every second of every day. When I'm happy and when I am sad. No matter where I am or who I am with. I always miss you most though when I see Ashley because I know she misses you so much too. I would give anything to see the two of you sitting and playing and laughing together again.

Help us all to stay strong Ally and when we can't be strong any longer help us to accept the support others offer to us. I feel like everyday without you gets a little harder to make it through. I know people say the pain is something you get used to, I just don't know how.

I love you baby girl,
Mommy

Comments:
Carol Yeager: I just read your poem and I just had to let you know that we allways are thinking about you and your family. I dont have any idea what you must be going through and especially at the holidays . I dont know why it is but I seem to mis the ones that are no longer here with me to celebrate the holidays with me.I do believe that there is a purpose for everything and I do believe that our lives are only given to all of us for a certain length of time and that when HE sees that we no longer can bear the pain then he puts us under his wings and takes us home to spare us from all pain.I know that some day you will meet Ally again and when you do she will be all smiles and free from all her sicknesses and I know it will make you smile also knowing that there is no pain that can come to either one of you when you are in GODS care.It will take time and I supose it must feel like a lifetime allready but just try to close your eyes and imagine seeing Ally running and laughing and playing with the other children who have been taken there .Please accept my heartfelt condolances and just know that we here online are all thinking of you and prayers are allways sent with lots of warm heartfelt sympathy.GOD BLESS AND try to be strong if not for yourself than for Ashley because I am sure that this must be so hard to comprehend for her and also so hard to go through every day missing her little sister.Give her a HUG for me and tell her that we are thinking of her also.

dawn: I will be thinking of you guys as you celebrate Christmas.Ashley-- it was very nice to meet you on Sunday.

The Bish Family: We can not even begin to imagine what you all have been through, but know our thoughts and prayers will remain with you. We hope you have a Merry Christmas. Ally, you are a special person who has touched many lives. You are deeply missed in person but your spirit remains here with us. Thank you and we will see you soon. Pete, Marcy, Dylan and Aidan

mandee: baby girl, i miss you so much and you are constantly on my mind. i hope you have a merry little christmas up in heaven and i hope your family does too. i love you!

Karen Lenker: I have visions of Ally frolicking in heaven in a red dress with white fur trim and her wearing a big red santa hat. Wishing Ally's family a peaceful holiday. I think of Ally often.

The Reeds: Shane & Jill--Our hearts & prayers go out to you and Ashley during this Christmas without your special angel, Ally. Know that she is watching you from above and would want you to celebrate this blessed holiday just as if she were here. May God bless each of you and give you the strength to persevere.

Michelle Wallace: Jill, I just want you to know that I think of you often. The holidays won't be the same without that sweet little Ally, but she will be with you, and I hope you feel her little hand in yours. Someone told me that God only pulls back the curtain in heaven to let our loved ones see us when we're smiling, because there's no sadness in heaven. So smile today, dear, so that Ally may see you! My heart is with you.

Sue Hohl: Hi Jill-thank you for sharing the poem. It is exactly how we feel, isn't it. I'm not sure if you remember me but I lost my daughter Angela 5 years ago and we met at a Miller Keystone dinner that you spoke at. I just wanted you to know that as a mom, I understand all the feelings you may be experiencing and if you ever want to talk, feel free to contact me. 610-385-6671
I don't have any answers to take away the pain and sadness but I know it does help to talk. Sue

Nicki: Jill,
Just want to let you know I'm thinking of you and sending you love and support, especially during this holiday season. Even after 4 years the holidays are bitterseet for me. My Christmas wish for you and your family is healing and peace.
Take care! Love and hugs,
Nicki

phil: We're continuing to pray for you and your family. Merry Christmas and a Happy and Prosperous New Year

Kirsten Yarnall: Thinking of you and praying for you.

The Bollingers: Our thoughts and prayers are with you. God Bless.

Tracy Diachynsky: Jill,
I think of you and your family every day.....I pray that you see Ally as the Angel on top of everyone's Christmas tree this year and in every red ribbon and decoration....I know I think of her alot when I see anything red. I can not image how you feel during this time of the year but I hope it some how helps you knowing others do care! Merry Christmas!
Tracy Diachynsky

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Mon, Dec 15, 2008 4:30 PM
Ashley made it back from her week in Disney! She seemed to have had allot of fun. Lots of stories to tell me, that's for sure.

On Sunday, Ashley, my parents, and myself spent the day driving to Delaware to deliver toys to the Ronald McDonald House. I've always said that once we had time to help others, I would find ways to teach my girls all of the good we could do to give back, like so many have done for our family. Sunday was a first of many plans I have to create new traditions for Ashley and myself. I want Ashley to remember places like Ronald McDonald House as places that were life savers towards our family. People who went above the call of just volunteering, but caring for us as family! Without charities like this, so many families lives would be much more difficult when caring for a sick child.

After coming home from our day trip to the RM House, Ashley looked at me and said, "It felt really good Dad to help all those kids!" She then said. "Maybe next time we can go to the hospital and deliver them to the kids ourselves!" I smiled and said it sounded like a great plan for next year!

In the coming months, I have been working with Jill, to help another family in need. More details will follow, but you may want to save the date of Feb. 14th 2009!!! ( A red day for sure!)
All the help would be appreciated to ease this families burdens, so they could spend more quality time with their children, instead of worry about medical costs.

Shane

Comments:
Michele: That was great idea -- Wish you all a Merry Christmas

Carol Yeager: I wish your family the most Holiday happiness and all the good wishes and dreams and hope that Ashley gets everything she asks for.Please accept our good wishes for the holiday and also for the many days that are ahead.GOD BLESS

Kim/Angel_Wings: Dear Heintz family, Just wanted you to know that ALL of us at Angel_Wings will be praying for you tomorrow during our prayer vigil. Ally remains in my thoughts daily.
ATTENTION PRAYER WARRIORS!!
PLEASE JOIN OUR PRAYER VIGIL FRIDAY, DECEMBER 19TH. 2008 BETWEEN THE HOURS OF 8-9 PM. EST. FOR ALL THE FAMILIES ON OUR ANGEL_WINGS PRAYER LIST AND OUR ANGEL FAMILIES OF CHILDREN AND ADULTS WHO HAVE EARNED THEIR WINGS.

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Angel_Wings/

Dawn Stinnard: You deserve a Big Thank You for everything you try to do to help others. That sounds like a great new tradition has been started and one that has special meanings for a lifetime.

holly: Shane,i think that's a great thing for Ashley to focus on.tell her Rayne and I miss her and hope to see her soon!

phil: that was a very nice thing that you and Ashley did, and should be commended for your generousty.
Peace be with you
Phil

Martha: I'm thinking of you both during this hard holiday season- be strong for Ashley- she needs you both! I hoping that 2009 brings happiness for you all!

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Mon, Dec 8, 2008 4:45 PM
Wow, I love the fact all of you "Shane" haters have come out to comment. If you read the last update and could actually understand what I wrote, you maybe would of not had such nasty things to write. Maybe I should of started the last update with "This message was approved by Jill"?? Would you of felt better?

You are all entitled to your opinion and can continue to leave your messages. I dealt with much harder comments in the past year and will continue to still hold my head high.

Never once did I say I was perfect, never once did I trash Jill, who is still the mother to my children. The only two people who understand any of this is Jill and I, none of you! Period.

If you don't like what you read, don't read the site! I started the site, I own the site, and I will continue to manage and use the site to encourage others to help support others in need.

The last update was discussed with Jill, she had the option of telling you all herself about the divorce. She couldn't find the words to do so, and allowed me. The last message intentions were not to be mean or harmful, they were meant to allow others to know what was going on incase they would see Jill or I with others in public, and also to express my feelings on what I tried to do my best with, with all I could do. I also was only expressing my concerns for Jill's well being and my hope she finds more than what she had.

I understand who it is that has the nasty comments, and maybe you could one day tell me where my wife actually went? You seem to know her better than I.

Here is an inside hint to what Jill hates the most (if you knew her so well, you probably already knew not to comment in this way):

Jill hates to hear comments on how "Wonderful", "Great" etc. a mother she is. Neither one of us like to have this type of pressure placed on us. But, of course you probably already knew this. . . right?

If you want to continue to leave your nasty comments, by all means send your hate mail to aajsheintz@yahoo.com. I would love to respond directly to you one on one.

If you have nothing nice to say, or can't comprehend what it is I may actually be going through after a year of losing my daughter, my wife and my family, then please don't bother coming back to the site.

Thanks!

Comments:
NIcki: Shane & Jill,
I'm very sorry to hear you are experiencing yet another loss. I hope that you both can find peace, strength, and love - for yourselves, each other, Ally & Ashley in your journey through grief and healing. No one has the right to judge you, unless they are living your life and making the decisions you have had to make. Losing a child is devastating, I know. Sending you both love, warmth, and sympathy to help get you through your first Christmas without Ally. If either of you need to talk don't hesitate to contact me, you have my information.
Much love,
Nicki

Carol Yeager: I am so sorry for everything that your family is going through and also for things that were being said about you or anyone in the family.I do wish you the best that life can give all of you and I am so very sorry if anything I said seemed to be the wrong thing, PLEASE believe me when I say that those words were only intended to comfort you and as far as I know they were true ALL GOOD from me to all of you.HONESTLY I do believe that you are one strong family and hope there would be more out there just as strong.All HONEST and HEARTFELT words to you and your family,again I apologize if anything that I said seemed to be offensive to your family,I only had good intentions.

Kim/Angel_Wings: Just wanted to let you know that I'm praying for you and your family.

haosdhf: I am sorry to here about the divorce. I hope Ashley is doing well she lost her sister and now her parents are apart.

K. Burd: I am sorry to hear that your family is going through such a difficult time. Many people don't realize how much support a person needs when going through a divorce. Proverbs 18:24 says "There exist companions disposed to break one another to pieces, but there exists a friend sticking closer than a brother." True friends give loving support. The Bible provides families with the help they need to live a happy life in such a difficult time. My thoughts and prayers are with your family.

Vickie Tim/Gordon: Comment Correction: As Long as "SHE DID"

Vickie Tim/Gordon: Let us not forget the reason this site began!!!! NOT TO CRITICIZE or FINGER POINT! This is and always will be ALLY's SITE! I COMMEND Shane for being man enough to share yet another personal turmoil that his family is going through,so why can't you people accept it and let them move on! Peace be with you and your Family as you deal with yet another bridge to cross, and I know this too you can cross! The Heintz's are strong or Ally would not have been able to fight as long as he did!

Tina: I am here to support the both of you...I do know how hard it is to go through the years of having a child with certain needs and trying to parent other children. I know the struggles of how hard it is to be gone from your family while tending to your hospitalized child.
Do I think you both have anger...Yep I sure do. Do I think its warranted anger..yes. To those of you who feel the need to bash let me tell you its part of the stages of greif.

I will continue to support you all during this time...I am including my email here so that one of you can contact me regarding the camp for Ashley.
God Bless Both of you and Ashley as you start yet another journey of your lives...I hope that you can find some kind peace and happiness during this holiday season.

phil: Sorry to hear things didn't work out.

As for the comments by the dumb and ignorant post on here, my advice is to ignore them. They nor I can comprehend what you guys have been through, nor will we ever be able to comprehend what you've guys have been through in the past year.

Both you and Jill need to be strong for Ashley she needs you guys now more than ever

Peace Be With You

Phil

Heidi Snyder: Shane, I know the emotions of divorce but I don't know the emotions of the loss of a child. I can only emagine the pain the both of you are going through and the holidays make it even harder. I too never trash my ex nor ever will because he is the father of my children and hold a special place in my heart forever even if we are not together. Stay strong through this for Ashley she needs you. Take care of yourself because if you don't you can't be a good dad and one to be proud of. Please know you are not alone and God is with you every step of the way.

Susan: Shane - I too lost a spouse over a child with a life threatening illness. No person has any right to make comments unless they have been through this situation and the stress in your lives it causes. I do not feel you trashed Jill in any way. You both did everything you could possibly do for Allie until the end. I agree with your posting to let everyone know should they see either of you. You, Jill, Ashley and Allie have left us all in to yours and your Angel's lives for many years. And although I never had the privelage of meeting any of you personally I feel a part of your family. My prayers will stay with each and every one of you that you will eventually find peace in all your lives.

Dawn Stinnard: It must of been hard to decide to let everyone know of your divorce. You have let us into your life with Ally and Ashley this is just another chapter in your lives. God Bless and keep your strengh in God and he will lead you all in the right directions.

Mary: You don't know me, but I'm praying for peace and healing in all of your lives. You have all been under more stress than the majority of people could comprehend. Know that God loves you all and is pulling for a positive resolution, whatever that may be.
Mary

Allie: Who said anything about hating?? Shane, I hope all of your anger can be eased when you look into Ashley's sweet little face. I will never feel bad about thinking that Jill/you have been incredibly strong/great parents through what must have been some of the most trying times anyone could face.

Tracy Diachynsky: Shane & Jill,
All I can say is with all that you two and your whole families have been through over the last few years NOONE has a right to judge ANY of you!! You know alot of people in the area of Boyertown need to remember the simple saying of "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything"!!!! I am sure we have all learned that saying somewhere in our life and the world would be a better place if more people would follow that rule!!! There are two sides to every relationship and nobody's perfect! People that criticize the way others lead their life should concentrate on their own life because I would bet my last dollor that their life is probably not perfect by any means!! Stay strong both of you and remember your good times with Ally & Ashley, because that's what is important!

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Sun, Dec 7, 2008 9:45 PM
Ally, tonight I write this update knowing that you already know the news of our family and that it has finally come to an end. As of Friday, mommy and I are no longer married. This was your mommy's wish and what she wanted. Daddy tried for one year to get your mommy to feel differently, but others stood in the way.

Ally, I gave your mommy the first chance at writing this update, but she said she could not find the words to explain it. If she can't explain it, GOD knows I can't either. I guess you nor I will never know, WHY?

All I know are the facts of how I approached life with our family. I gave every ounce of me. I gave you, Ashley and mommy a life of joy and happiness, and I am so proud of all I have accomplished. I know that I never caused you or Ashley pain, and I know I made all of the right decisions. What I know is that no other man, father, or husband, could have come close to what I was able to do!!! This I know for sure. I think this is why I can easily get through these days of hardship with my head held high.

Ally, I am so thankful that the week before you left to be with Jesus, I took the time to explain to you what was happening. You learned the truth, and knew I was not the one causing you pain. Ally you told me that your home was here with me, Ashley and your kitties, and this I know is true. I feel so comforted at home, (even when most times I am alone) I can really feel your presence and love. That day after we sat and talked, you gave me the biggest hug and kiss, and told me you loved me, and knew I never caused you hurt or pain. Thinking back to that moment, brings such relief and peace to my heart and soul!

Ally, watching your mommy from a distance, listening to how she is dealing with life, and all of the decisions she continues to make, I hope and pray you watch over her. Mommy is lost and is searching! She needs a point of light, and I no longer can be that for her. I tried so many times to extend my hand to pick her up, just like I had so many times in the past. I can't do that anymore. Ally, help mommy find some spiritual people in life, ones who will guide her in a life that Jesus and you would be proud of. Help her off this path of where she is now. I pray so much you can help her, and guide her broken heart.

Ally, I'm thankful that even though times are tough, I still am able to wake up each day. Not just wake up, but wake up with a smile on my face. And most of all, I'm thankful that no matter how bad things get, my faith will see me through.

No matter where you are in life, no matter how bad things may seem, God is in the blessing business. And that is reason enough to give thanks.

God works through people, and He has blessed me to have Ally and Ashley in my life. All of my friends continue to support me, encourage me and inspire me. So, I take this moment to say that I will keep my dreams alive. Every set back in life is only a set-up for a come back. I won't let other people stop me from living. I will live more, give more, love more and laugh more. The moment you stop laughing at life; Life will start laughing at you.

Miss you Ally! Daddy will always do what is best for you and Ashley and continue to lead a life that makes you proud to call me Daddy!

Comments:
steph: Sorry to hear the news shane. I will pray that the two of you can do whatever you need to do to help ashley through all of these hard times. I pray there is more peach in both of your, 2009s.
praying for you , jill and ashley everyday

Carol Yeager: I am so sorry and I dont think that we as normal human beings have any right to judge anyone, we need to be strong and giving to you as a family does ,after all I do believe we are all GOD'S CHILDREN and therefor we dont have the right to cast any stones.I eish whole heartedly thatall of you find comfort, happiness and peace and lots of love for oneanother.PLEASE all I think that is important at a time like this is to be a loving and devoted father for Ashley and supportive to Jill.IT is allways better to give than to receive.MERRY CHRISTMAS to ALL.

holly: being a parent who lost a child,i ask that no one judge or take sides,shane and jill both lost a child and people work through things differently.no one can tell shane or jill what to do on this site.i dont think anyone is taking away what a wonderful job both of these parents have done with ally.if you just lost a child and had your marriage end,then you can tell other people how to feel.just be glad it's not you in this situation.i continue to hope the best for all.

Jen,Kim,Kate,and Remi: Jill, we are all thinking of you and Ashley as always. You know that we love and support you and everything you do. Take care and we will see you soon!

Sheila Duffy: I am so sorry for the fact that you and Jill are no longer married, however I am more sorry that you felt the need to post this on Ally's site, placing the blame on Jill and putting her down for all that read this to see. I am sure that you would not want Ally to read this if she were still here, nor would you want Ashley to ever read this. As a follower of this site who had the privilege of meeting your daughters and Jill while they lived in Pgh, I ask that you delete it and if you feel the need, perhaps think of starting a different blog where you can express these feelings. Save Ally's site for what it was intended to be.
Your family continues to be in my prayers.

the Davis family: We are praying, praying, praying for all of you, please keep focused on that sweet little Ashley who is caught up in way more than a 6 yr old ever should be!!! Keep focused in the Lord and he will guide you.

The Bollingers: Keeping all of you in my thoughts and prayers during this difficult time. God Bless

Sarah: My prayers are with you and your family. Life is so hard when there are marriage problems. Remember to put God first and look at life through his eyes and it is easier to go forward. May God be with you both and your Ashley.

Allie: Wow... It's really a shame that it has come down to pointing fingers. Ally would be so sad to see this going on. We all know this is not the appropriate outlet for this type of message. And Jill, we all know how WONDERFUL of a Mother you are and always have been. I hope God can continue to give you BOTH the strength, patience and understanding to work together as a team to give Ashley the best, happiest life possible.

Vickie: Shane; Hold onto to your Faith and remember the Lord has taught us there are Season's and we all go through them,this being just yet another one of your seasons. Hold onto your Dreams for Ally and Cherrish them. Keep putting one foot in front of the other and remember the power of Prayer! Your always in mine! Have a Wonderful Christmas & Look forward to a Change for 2009!
p.s. your distant relative! Vickie Tim/Gordon

Kirsten Yarnall: Very sad to hear that you guys were unable to work things out. Shane, I appreciate your willingness to be open about your view of this matter. I need to be honest with you though, I always keep in mind that there are two sides to everything and nothing is ever the fault of only one person. I was raised to always look at my part in any situation first before casting stones in another persons direction because more than likely, whatever went wrong, I probably had a part in it. Given all that your family has endured these past years I feel that grace and understanding are needed right now. From all of us. Especially given that Ashley is in the mix. It is important for her to know above all else that both of her parents love her and are making decisions that they both feel are best for her. Please do not misinterpret my message. I am sure that you are hurting right now and that is certainly understandable. I'm sure Jill is too. As well as Ashley. All of you have lost something very precious and the pain of that is unimaginable to most of us reading from our homes. Please know that we will be praying for all of you as we have for all of these years. I pray that the pain this has caused all of you will soon be a thing of the past and that you can once again move forward with new insight about yourselves and new hope for the future. May blessings abound to all of you as you start on yet another new path.

Tara Hannahoe: Praying for all of you, as always.

Kasey Edison: I'm so proud of you. You're always in my thoughts and prayers.

Holly Cusumano: I'll be thinking of you on New Year's Eve. 2009 brings hope for a much better year for all of you.

Tracy/Angel_Wings: Praying for your family during this very difficult time. May God continue to grant the peace.

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